There are so many aspects to consider when starting out as a Male Escort in Australia, one of the first things to think about is whether you choose to show your face or hide your face on your ads. This is commonly referred to in the industry as “face-out” (exposed) or “face-in” (concealed), as a layer of discretion for workers. This discretion can potentially be a hindrance for workers as we hope to be as marketable as possible in an industry that relies on one's public image. Although there’s a fair bit to consider especially if it is at the cost of the social stigma or endangering their personal life.
I would usually recommend that workers starting out be Face-in, for quite a few reasons - mainly the ones addressed prior like discretion & personal safety. Although if there is a said time that an escort would like to go Face-out, they can do this at their own will which can allow a marketable advantage of a face reveal strategy. Considering this is a decision you can’t take back once it is out there, it's out there as a full-service escort. That is the trade-off, the risk versus rewards so to speak.
There are of course risks involved & should always be considered, these are not limited to what I managed to list prior to typing this article. There are obvious risks such as the social stigma & risking future job opportunities, unfortunately, we still live in a world where this is factor sex workers have to consider to provide full service. The social stigma that concerns most workers (especially female workers I have met) is from their own families finding them & being marginalised upon discovery.
One of the most common questions I get is “does your family know what you do?” & “How did/ would they react knowing what you do?”.
My family does know what I do & I took complete responsibility for coming out to them very openly with an insightful phone call or in-person conversation. I think it was important for them to know & for me to tell them, I had heard a few stories of sex workers being outed to their families by other escorts or agencies with ill intentions or utilised as blackmail. I decided at that time that hearing it from me was better than hearing it from someone else. So in starting a dialogue to express that I am working as a full-service straight male escort, taking all precautions I am aware of to maintain my own safety & the safety of others while providing the optimal experience for my clients. From there I was open to any further questions or concerns they may have, which was interesting as they really didn’t have any & now we all very much joke about it at family gatherings. In saying that my mother & grandmother are some of my most valuable support networks when there are times of stress or mental disposition.
There was one instance when an unstable client felt the need to blackmail me for more content by contacting my family & personal friends to send them explicit footage of me. This was something I hadn’t experienced before & so I made my family aware of the situation in a group chat & did a public announcement to my personal friends in case this individual did decide to take action. I proceeded to block this person & encouraged everyone to do the same. I never heard from them again.
Now back on track with what should be considered when deciding to be Face-out, you will be easily identifiable which comes with being a vulnerable figure to the public. Full-service sex workers are quite publically advertising themselves for the most private & taboo of experiences. Taking that into consideration it's obvious where the cultural stigmatisation comes from but some things that may not have been considered would be identity theft or limiting your future travel opportunities. Even though international travel is a massive wet dream to a lot of us right now, there is always the concern of being turned away at the border of a country that has not legalised full-service sex work. I haven’t done my professional due diligence to back this theory but I am always walking on the side of caution, as this was something brought to my attention by other sex workers travelling to the USA.
Although it's not all bad when it comes to revealing your face or other identifiable features, I mean if these are all the risks then what are the rewards & why am I a Face-out? Well, it all comes down to marketability, it is largely influential for clients to see your face as context for visual expectations, personability & build your overall aesthetic. Which are all valuable features like a straight male escort for female clientele because women are invested in male escorts based on their personability, chemistry & safety.
It allows further professional development especially as we live in the digital age & the majority of my marketing is through social media. My clients general will search through every social media profile I have through posts dating back months to build a clear description for themselves & then monitor me for maybe months later decide to send me an inquiry. So marketability is an essential aspect of being an independent straight male escort in Australia. It will also save a tonne of time editing or finding creative ways to cover your face.
This has been a lot of fun to rambling my inner monologue for a bit & I hope I helped provide some insight.
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